Although I am essentially armchair-bound with a nasty little nasal bug, I could not let today, International Women’s Day, pass without some comment.
I happen to agree with author Caitlin Moran, who wrote, in her book How to be a Woman:
Without feminism, you wouldn’t be allowed to have a debate on a woman’s place in society . . .”
Nor would I be allowed to operate this blog, choose to stay at home (at least for the first few years) to help raise my children, attend college for a higher education, or, indeed, to leave my hearth to pursue anything other than shoppin’, baby-birthin’, and other domesticatin’ duties.
Said another way, International Women’s Day (IWD) is an outright necessity. Yes, it’s Women’s History Month throughout March, but I wonder how many of us in the West (especially in the United States or Canada) can envision what being a girl or woman comprises in, say, China. Or Tanzania. Or India. Or Ecuador. Or a hundred other places or circumstances around the world that can be named with some fluidity. For some reason, Steubenville, Ohio; the dorms at Vanderbilt University; and NFL wives come to mind in the American context.
In short, as long as there are Jyoti Singhs in the world—far, far too many of them throughout history—whose light should be fiercely guarded and then raged against when it is monstrously snuffed out—there will be feminism.
Nota bene to any miscreants: women are not going away. We’re not going quietly or gently into the night. We’re not shutting up and taking it. We’re not sitting down or going to the back of the bus. We’re not staying barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. We’re not staying away or leaning backward. And we’re certainly not being brushed off, pushed over, or “bitch”ed into silence, even by one another.
But we are rocking the boat, shaking the tree, and talking the talk. So get used to it.
But don’t listen to only me on this matter. Moran is a good start if you’re looking for something modern and womanistic.
If you want something a little more in real-time, there have been some fantastic meditations on feminism, the need for IWD, the documentary called “India’s Daughter,” about the gang-rape and murder of Jyoti Singh, and much more just today, 8 March 2015. For those who’d like to do a search, this subject is also earmarked with the following hashtags: #womensday #IWD2015 #MakeItHappen #internationalwomensday
And I will highlight just a handful of springboards to immerse you in the current wading pool surrounding women’s rights worldwide: Suzy at Someday, Somewhere writes about Jyoti in “Let Her Light Shine On”; Corinne at Write Tribe offers a list of compelling quotes in “Use Your Voice”; the photographers of National Geographic offer a stirring pictorial account of women worldwide in “Portraits of Strength”; and, for some historical reading, activist and birth-control advocate Margaret Sanger’s writings and speeches can be found at NYU or here online if you’re not in New York.
In approximately the time it’s taken you to read this post so far, at least one woman or girl has been sexually assaulted in the United States. Figures vary planetwide, but the World Health Organization reports the following:
based on existing data from over 80 countries, [researchers] found that globally 35% of women have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence. . . . International studies reveal that approximately 20% of women (and 5–10% of men) report* being victims of sexual violence as children.
This Grendel of physical and mental violence has to stop. Come what may, we all have to unfetter our voices against misogyny, rape culture, and the oppression of a significant segment of the world population. Let sunlight and speech be our disinfectants, as well as our giant-slayers.
*Emphasis mine, as reported rates of sexual violence, rape, and incest are notoriously underreported.
9 thoughts on “How to be a Woman in 2015: International Women’s Day”
I was having a chat with some of my women friends the other day and learned an incredible fact from one of them. That even as late in our history as the 1920s, it was permissible to sell women in the UK. And I’m not necessarily talking about sexual slavery here, but what was within the law. I know it still happens in some third world countries and, illegally, in Western society, but this fact about the 1920s really struck home to me how things have changed. The other thing is domestic violence. I’m not sure when it became a crime, but I’m fairly sure that even in the 50s (maybe later) that men were entitled to “discipline” their wives with corporal punishment and the police would only intervene if the woman was severely injured or killed as a result, which was a bit late as far as the woman was concerned. So any woman that rambles on about the good old days, should think twice.
We must, as you say, keep commenting at the very least, and hopefully a lot more.
Bravo for your eloquent and powerful voice Leigh!
Blushing, but thank you, Sue. I should commend you and Dave for fundraising for trafficking victims a few (months?) ago. I lose track of time passing on the Internet! That was an awesome thing to do, I must say.
Thank you Leigh. Yes we have been volunteering with SA Foundation for about 6 years. Our leaping into the frozen lake was likely the most unusual fundraiser we have done for them. 🙂
I know I tend to take my freedoms for granted being a woman in the US. Good point, and sobering to remember that this certainly isn’t universal.
Great topic and viewpoint here!
Now, for something very far off topic, is that Groucho Marx in your header image? I think it is! Isn’t it?
It is indeed Groucho, Swoosieque. It’s a bookmark I got my husband years ago. I believe it says, a la Groucho that, “I’ve had a nice evening. This wasn’t it.” We share a Marx Bros. (and humor) interest.
interesting read on women’s day: